We have taken to 'farming' in our backyard -- tomatoes, mustard greens, a variety of lettuces and herbs.
While turning over the earth to plant, or when weeding, long lost items surface in the garden. Lumps of coal from decades back when the house had a coal furnace. Marbles. Bits of glass. Loose change.
They seem to work their way to the surface and appear after a rain where a day earlier the earth was just earth.
This made me reflect on how everyday experiences can surface unexpected emotions:
Unexpected and unearthed emotions can feel very uncomfortable.
Especially when they seem to surface out of nowhere. And even more so when they break into a day where you were feeling just fine. Emotions hidden and out of sight can quickly become disruptive.
These feelings often signal what is important to us at any given moment. They direct our attention to what matters. The key is slowing down enough to feel the feeling.
To let the feeling linger, un-interrupted and un-analyzed.
To feel it without explaining it to yourself.
Then, as it passes we can turn our attention to understanding what lies under the feeling.
If we react too quickly and don't tune in to what the unexpected emotion is telling us, we are more likely to:
Back to the loose change in the garden. A dime that turned up the other day gave me exact change for a baguette I bought for $2.10. And the dime's unusual patina from all those years in the garden might unearth other stories, now that it's back in general circulation.
Giving you my ten cents worth,
3/8/2014 02:34:57 am
I really enjoy reading your blogs Minda. What is the best way to set up a coaching session with you?
4/8/2014 06:17:10 am
So glad you read and enjoy my blogs! The writing process helps me to think about issues, explore ideas and refine my own point of view. You can contact me through my CONTACT page on this website or call Coach Minda 514-791-4506
3/8/2014 03:16:04 am
I find that it is generally the people who let themselves understand that it is ok to have feelings who seem to have the most genuine feelings of self-worth and the least anxiety and depression. People who recognise that having the appropriate feeling in regards to a particular event (happy, sad, angry) actually feels satisfying... people who realize that they can contain many feelins that come and go... and who believe that other people will survive their having these feelings... seem to be much more "stable" in the sense that they feel that they can successfully weather the bumps and buffetings of normal life. They seem to be more innerly coherent and end up having better (though sometimes fewer) relationships with people because they are more accurately "readable" and comprehensible to others too.
4/8/2014 06:23:49 am
You understand this well.
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