An article I read a few days ago, How to influence the way other people see you, explains how there are only minor correlations between how you think you are viewed and how people view you.
"What matters about you, to someone else, is whatever has most meaning for them – not for you."
If you have the feeling that you are not getting through to someone, good chance you aren't!
The article triggered a memory.
I was working on two large healthcare projects:
Constructivism is a view of learning based on the belief that knowledge isn't a thing that can be simply given by the teacher at the front of the room to students at their desks. Rather, knowledge is constructed by learners; they are the builders and creators of meaning and knowledge.
Here is what happened:
After all this I understood constructivist theory well enough to lead a workshop, with confidence and conviction. I also became more sensitive to how so many of our misunderstandings and miscommunications are rooted in the fact that each of us generates our perceptions of the world and those they encounter through a unique lens.
I saw a physiotherapist last week seeking a solution to my continuing hip pain, diagnosed months back by an orthopaedic surgeon as trochanteric bursitis. The fluid-filled bursae help reduce friction between bones and soft tissue, but repetitive movement can lead to inflammation, irritation and pain.
In my case, the problem stemmed from months of practicing the Cuban motion in dance class, essential to the cha cha and the rumba.
After a thorough examination, the physio recommended two simple exercises, jotting down these instructions:
Looking for a way to accelerate the healing process, I said: “I can handle more than this, definitely. Can you give me a few more exercises?”
She said I should just do the two exercises every day.
I woke up three days later realizing, in total disbelief, I had done my exercises just once.
Logically, the solution required three steps:
In my dumbfounded search for explanations, I asked myself:
After acknowledging the illogical nature of my behavior, I resolved to change my ways and have performed the two exercises every day, reminding myself:
My conclusion? If you want to improve your life, or make a change for the better, you have to go beyond awareness and act on your intentions.
Many solutions are not that difficult, though some do call for more than four minutes and 20 seconds a day. Finally, doing something is almost always better than doing nothing.
My family, relationships, movement, nature, flexibility of mind, exploration of alternative perspectives & openness are central to my life.