This week I got riled up. At the last minute, a meeting I had re-organized my week's schedule to accommodate and had invested a lot of time preparing for, got cancelled. This meeting was important to me and there was a lot riding on it. No apology or acknowledgement of the inconvenience accompanied the cancellation.
To me, it signaled disrespect and indicated I don't matter
Many relationships, good or not-so-good, come to an end over just this issue - not saying sorry. There are a lot of reasons why it is hard to say sorry. And it can depend on the circumstances, the context and the person(s) involved.
For example, one might feel:
I got blinded by my anger and acted too hastily. Had I paused long enough, I would have slowed down my angry over-reaction. I know better.
Don’t let sorry be a deal-breaker.
Next time, I'll take the high road.
"The shoe is on the other foot" is a good expression as I go from:
Teachers and students alike struggle to teach and learn
Learning something new is a serious challenge that is greatly enjoyed when there is a high degree of rapport, confidence and/or connection between the teacher and the student (or between therapist/patient; coach/client). And when there is a stylistic approach that clicks. These relationships take a bit of time, a bit of give and take and a sense of general goodwill on both sides.
My teacher and I both expressed impatience with one another at this week's cha cha lesson. I kept bending the wrong leg as I shifted my weight, and I couldn't master the sexy hip/pelvis swing in the rock step. Fortunately, I got the hip action in the cha cha cha steps.
So it is with all this in mind I will strive to become my teacher's best student while I believe he will strive to teach me the best way he knows how.
Keep teaching and learning,
Leading and following
The first instruction he gave in his thick Russian accent was, "on this floor, the man is the lead and the woman follows. The man sets the rhythm, decides which steps and controls the direction." In my new dress and high heel shoes, I looked him in the eyes and said, "I hear you."
Learning how to sense and respond to my teachers lead will be a challenge and once learned, an accomplishment I think.
The ballroom dance floor is going to be a hotbed of interesting lessons on leading, following, resisting, relaxing and working together. And of course all the lessons I can't yet anticipate!
Here are a few of my personal take-aways from this week:
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