With great feeling, I said to a client wrestling with an important decision: "Don't worry, there is a time for everything under heaven."
Some deep corner of my memory conjured up this thought from the Book of Ecclesiastes.
I’m not the biblical type, so I probably first heard the words as a child when my mother played Pete Seeger records, including Turn! Turn! Turn! Or maybe it was listening to the Byrds’ hit on a transistor radio. Whatever the source of my memory, here’s the King James Version:
To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
I leave the debate about the deep meaning of this wonderful text to biblical scholars – not to mention fans of both Pete Seeger, Roger McGuinn and the rest of the Byrds – but a few things stand out for me:
Enjoy your time,
In my teens, I was an enthusiastic canoeist for two weeks each summer at Lake of the Woods, near Kenora (a small city in Northern Ontario). Surrounded by wilderness, I could be counted on to:
Since then, I have easily gone into a panic when swarmed by bugs. Especially salt-water mosquitos - the worst of a bad lot. I have done my best to avoid wooded areas, be out at dusk, or to sit outside without a fire burning.
This weekend black flies were out in huge numbers in the countryside. I was desperate to go for a hike and enjoy a fabulous June day. And sitting on a ledge near the doorway I saw a can of OFF! It promised 8-hour protection to prevent mosquitoes, black flies, ticks, chiggers, biting midges and deer flies from eating you alive.
Over more than a thirty year period, mainly because of health concerns, I had never considered using OFF.
I took the can outside, sprayed myself liberally and went for a spectacular long hike. I enjoyed each minute. There was no stress from mosquitoes or black flies hounding me. I was a free spirit in the country. It felt like Lake of the Woods!
This on-the-spot decision made me reflect on how we go about making choices and meeting our needs.
And here's the nub: A simple solution - OFF - freed me to think about far more important things than the cloud of mindless bugs hovering above my head.
Wishing you a bug-free summer,
Working with me is a great way to discover new things about yourself and uncover what you really want in life. Coaching helps you to discover possibilities you may not have known, then set goals and create plans, and work through any roadblocks along the way.
Disclaimer: I do not promote the regular use of DEET based repellents and if it works for you, use other less toxic insect repellents available.
I heard about a doctor who said to a patient regarding a longer-term problem, "what works best is to surround your problem with many barking dogs." What he meant was: some medication (woof), a change in diet (growl), and more exercise (bow-wow).
I've turned this very smart thought over and over in my mind, trying to distill the doctor's insight into a clear and simple message about problems. Especially problems that are not run-of-the-mill. I'm talking about the confusing, complicated or even vaguely defined problems where this isn't one answer or a single treatment.
As a coach, conversations I have with clients touch on a wide range of problems -- career challenges, marital problems, lifestyle issues. Typical health and wellness examples? People want to lose weight, exercise more, reduce their stress and anxiety, or drink and smoke less.
Even for the motivated person - or dog - change isn't easy or quick!
Everyone has their own way of making changes and addressing problems. But, in general, surrounding the matter at hand with a pack of barking dogs is a useful way to diversify your solutions:
If you need some help letting your dogs out - to surround your problems - contact me.
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