The un-balancing act
In the book, "The Three Marriages", David Whyte, poet-author explains how we exhaust ourselves trying to separate and balance three core relationships in our life. The three marriages are to:
Instead of thinking about our life in terms of work-life balance, he asks us to knit these relationships together and to see how the core commitments to each are connected and integrated.
He is a poet first and his book isn't written as a self-help "how-to" one. It takes a few reads I think. His underlying thesis is helpful in framing many of the challenges we face in our three marriages.
It is safe to say we enter into the first marriage with a lot of preconceived ideas of how it will work and how good it will be. As our mutual imperfections bubble and rise to the surface we discover how difficult it is.
As I begin to coach couples, I feel a few of David Whyte's ideas might be helpful.
We need to:
4/5/2014 12:58:23 pm
I think Minda has beautifully summarized this amazingly rich book. Her posting leads me to share a number of my favorite bits from the book (I've adapted and paraphrased a bit):
5/5/2014 01:47:59 pm
Thanks Janet for sharing so many of your favorite ideas. His poetic perspective makes his work quite unique.
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