Rising above the inner critic
I believe that even the most intractable inner critic, the most raging of inner voices can be quieted, even domesticated.
As a life-work coach, the personal issues that I am contacted about usually relate to: challenges of procrastination & perfectionism, poor lifestyle habits, burnout, personal effectiveness and career concerns.
When I ask first-time clients, what was the pivotal moment when they decided to contact me, reasons might include:
The reasons vary of course, but at the heart of this decision is a desire to “FIX” the problem. When there is commitment and motivation and a willingness to make the effort, CHANGE is achieved. The FIX works.
Of all the barriers to making change, the one that seems to hijack people’s commitment and motivation, is not discipline, self-control or even their effort – it is the voice of the inner critic.
The inner critic is the enemy of the people. It is a negative powerhouse that generates feelings of worthlessness, inadequacy and shame.
When I discover that the harsh critic is at work within my clients, sabotaging their efforts at a successful outcome, my task is clear. Teach them to dial back the volume of this voice:
7/4/2019 06:46:48 am
7/4/2019 08:42:30 am
I imagine it’s the positive one that springs forth from you. And I agree it can be so. But the inner critic isn’t so kind and positive and it is a source of much suffering I find. What is your secret Maila? Very good to hear from you.
7/4/2019 10:12:07 am
A good reminder to lower the inner volume of negative self-criticism and worry Minda. Beautiful music like the one you posted above cam help. Thank you and enjoy the country:) 🙏
7/4/2019 10:37:09 am
Thank you Caroline. For folks with a "propensity" towards self-criticism and worry, being able to lower the volume, turn it off for a bit and quiet down the mind is a great relief. Beautiful music can help!
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