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Pain, pain go away

25/2/2015

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I came home tired and happy after an evening of dance practice. Before turning in for the night, I did a fast bit of iPhone research to track down country songs to play for a waltz in my next class.

The words on the phone screen blurred and I couldn't quite read the song titles.
  • I tried to correct the blurriness by moving the phone to different angles  
  • I increased the back-light on the phone 
  • I increased the font size

When I still couldn't read the song titles, I said to myself, "my eyes must be tired, maybe I need new glasses, something is wrong with the screen."  I turned off the phone, believing the screen's bright white light wasn't good for me.


Within a few seconds I saw trails of white and green light, in a zig-zag, cross- hatch formation, across the upper wall of my room.


I went to emergency, at the General. The diagnosis: aura without migraine.  It turns out this is quite common. In my case, a wicked migraine surfaced a day later. I had pounding behind my eyes, a throbbing head, and root-canal like pain in my mouth.


My aura without migraine, followed by a full-on migraine, gave me a chance to chew on two ideas that go far beyond this experience: 
  • How pain is influenced by our thinking and emotions.
  • How we can avoid or even deny an unpleasant truth, even when the evidence might be strong.

Pain is coloured by what we believe about the pain

The way we perceive and think about our pain influences our experience of pain. The way we interpret the pain can make the symptoms even worse.
  • For example, when I said to myself, "this pain is awful, I can't handle it, now I'm going to get migraines for the rest of my life," my pain amplified. The more emotional I got, the deeper my fear and the greater the intensity of pain.
  • On the other hand, when I said to myself, "this is only going to last a day or so, I can cope with this, people suffer from this and much worse all the time,"  I felt less panicky and better able to cope.

Yes, I coped better when I could:
  • Relax through meditation.
  • Focus on the painful sensations and not let my mind drift into worries about how I would always have pain.
  • Enjoy a few distractions (Facebook and texting).

And I must admit a stronger medication was a godsend.

To deny, refuse and reject

When we directly experience something as not quite right, or when we perceive something or someone as not quite right, the feelings can be uncomfortable. It is quite natural to deny, reject or even refuse to believe a given experience or perception that is in fact the real thing.

In my case, it didn't take me long to realize that blurry vision and flashing lights were signals that things were not quite right. But I could see how in other circumstances my mind could easily play tricks on me. 

This can be a problem if we:

  • Chronically deny, reject and refuse our direct experience or feelings.
  • Understand the "evidence" is quite strong but  continue to seek out other explanations.
  • Are unaware that we are refusing to accept a truth or fact, or deny its existence.
  • Allow fear to keep us from facing our problems or avoiding action.

If you suffer from physical pain, there are pain management techniques worth learning.  And if you
perceive something or someone as not quite right, pay attention. Same goes if things go blurry, as they did for me.

Blurry and pain-free,
Coach Minda

9 Comments
Richard Childs
26/2/2015 03:38:01 am

Minda, you operate, function, live on a higher level. In turn, you make the world a better place and attract your good.

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Minda link
26/2/2015 03:45:02 am

Richard, you are the first ever to give me this sort of compliment. And while it's not true I'm going to accept it! Why not! Thanks for reading my blogs and contributing positively as you always do.

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Maila
27/2/2015 12:55:35 am

Oof...Minda this is one of your blogs to which I must find a second to reply!
Addressing one's "pains" in a frank, honest, open way is very positive. It can only serve to help ride through & hopefully overcome it.
Sharing, even the less pleasant experiences of life, is a wonderful act of connection to our fellow human beans & this goes to show that even "bad times" can be shared with positive results.
Sending good energy your way, knowing this too shall pass.
Hang in/on & thanks for sharing!

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Minda link
27/2/2015 01:48:43 am

From your fellow human bean, I wish you and your Goan guests a pain free time! Thanks Maila for finding a few seconds. Advertisement: if you are going to GOA check out Maila's beech resort at: http://meemsbeachresort.com/

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Joy
27/2/2015 04:27:07 am

Pain can take you to a whole new plane. It can be a daunting experience. The mind is sometimes your only relief from it. If you can control your thoughts enough and focus on something positive, it can enable you to move on. Don't let pain be the strongest force in your day. There's a lot to "mind over matter."

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Minda
27/2/2015 06:19:58 am

My heart goes out to those who are in chronic pain as it so robs people of feeling good. And we don't know who is suffering as pain doesn't show well. I agree that using meditation or distraction or "thought" control are really necessary to get to the other side and have relief. Thanks Joy!

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Lisa
3/3/2015 02:19:13 am

Minda sorry to hear about this inconvenient trauma, but happy to hear that you were keen enough to take action. So true that many people deny or reject their physical signs that can later manifest into a chronic condition. Our body talks to us, our job is to respond to that sign. However, our mind can cause us pain as well....what has worked for me is talking to you and reading your posts. Thanks for being such a fabulous coach!

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Minda link
3/3/2015 09:07:50 am

Such kind words Lisa! Much thanks. And guess what - following my aura, then migraine, came an unexpected root canal!

All is well now.

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