Funny side up
I grew up with very funny brothers. I have a few very funny friends. My children tell funny irreverent stories.
I can’t tell a joke or make a pun, but I am the first to laugh if you deliver a funny one-liner or a good funny story. For me, humor keeps things in perspective and creates bonds between people as they share the “joke”.
After a recent difficult conversation, I was emotionally and physically exhausted. I wanted to make sense of it and took to writing as a way to explain my thoughts to myself. Before long, I was belly laughing and lightened up considerably.
The value of humor (besides being so entertaining!) is how effective it can be in reducing tension. It provides another perspective, uncovering the irony, the nonsensical and the absurdity of life. It also helps us cope with challenging situations and the unwelcome inner dialogues we carry in our heads.
Difficult personal circumstances are not laughable. But when we find a playful way to think about our problems, we have a better chance of clearing up some of our confusions, contradictions and mixed emotions. Using humor to understand and explain various predicaments can be a masterful creative force in reducing the distress and unhappiness we naturally encounter.
When we laugh at ourselves and use humor to view a current problem it:
If somewhere along the way, you lost your sense of humor, I will help you find it.
Keep you posted,
26/11/2013 07:21:27 am
Minda, you might recall the day stretching into evening when we three sibs sat together in our parents' basement writing separately and discussing what we were going to say at Dad's funeral. We were, of course, deeply sad and in profound grief at our rather sudden loss. Yet, when I started reading to you the first draft of my eulogy, the chain of reactions among us, the jests back and forth, unexpectedly and surprisingly turned it into the funniest moment I had ever experienced before or since! We laughed so hard and long I thought I might not be able to catch my breath. Even now as I recall the moment I am laughing. Strange thing, what we call humour...
26/11/2013 07:48:33 am
Thanks for this memory. It was hysterical in fact! The three of us had quite a few hilarious moments during our very dark times.
27/11/2013 10:05:17 am
In the hierarchy of the psychological defenses that human beings use to handle the travails of life, denial is at the bottom and humor and creativity are at the top in terms of sophistication and effectiveness!
27/11/2013 10:28:50 am
How reassuring Susan! We usually need to "process" our suffering, sink to the bottom, feel bad etc. before we move to humor - which does a great job at transforming our perceptions and those of others in an otherwise tense, awkward, or anxiety-provoking situation. Thanks
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