A year ago today, (January 12, 2018), I had back surgery at The Montreal Neurological Institute. Six weeks post-surgery, in hopes to getting back to 'normal', I began physiotherapy and was committed to a daily exercise regimen. Without much warning, eight weeks into my recovery, I badly tore my meniscus and hamstring. These injuries set me back and 'normal' seemed unreachable.
While in the thick of a personal or professional crisis, a major upheaval or any disruptive life event, most of us temporarily lose our sense of normalcy and the feeling that our life has order, predictability and is under our control. It can be wickedly stressful to lose what you had or what was normal to you.
I don't want to minimize the challenges posed by any crisis, but there are a few shortcuts to regaining your bearings. First of all, reestablish or modify routines and habits that served you well in the past. Let go of the struggle to recover what was lost and focus on creating something new. Revisit and readjust your priorities. Set new goals. Ask how others have triumphed over adversity and dealt with hard knocks. Pay attention to how you think about things and the attitudes and beliefs you carry. How can a change in your thinking change your attitude and bring more peace and acceptance? Finding your normal requires persistence, focus, a whole lot of love and support, and good fortune to move from coping to thriving.
If you want to make changes to your normal, you don't need a crisis or life altering event to renew yourself.
Interestingly, no adverse life event interferes with my morning coffee routine. Some things never change.
p.s An earlier blog, Cultivation of hope is the back story to my surgery. I wrote it to support those suffering from pain and to offer insight to those who see loved ones in some form of decline and suffering.
My family, relationships, movement, nature, flexibility of mind, exploration of alternative perspectives & openness are central to my life.