One focus of my work is helping clients to understand how and why difficult emotions get whipped up in them. Another is finding more insightful, productive and positive ways to respond.
Imagine a situation that pushes your buttons.
Maybe you have a thesis to write, a presentation to give, a legal case to defend, a sticky conversation to be had, too much or too little work, or, a cold call to a prospective employer. Or, maybe you are smack in the middle of a traffic jam, caught up with whining kids or feel under attack by an aggressive colleague.
As we feel more emotional and upset (insecure, irritated, annoyed, nervous or scared stiff- take your pick) we get more reactive.
In varying degrees, we might for example:
Difficult motions come on fast and furious. Or, they can build up slowly, until we feel them as overwhelming. These thoughts and feelings we don't choose. But, we do have a say in how we act and respond.
If you want to have a say in how you react, try these suggestions:
In the heat of the moment or even after a slow burn of emotion, self-awareness and self-control offers a vantage point - a bit of space to step back and choose how to respond to something or someone.
How do you handle strong emotions? Do your buttons get pushed?
Keep you posted,
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