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All for a few terrifying minutes

6/6/2015

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Our dance studio teachers and students have a few more weeks to prepare for the summer PERFORMANCE (Aka -SPOTLIGHT) -  choreographed routines in the Latin or Smooth ballroom dances. Some of us are social dancers, while others dance competitively. Our dance experience ranges from three months to ten years or more!

In my heart of hearts, I always considered myself a dancer. I was a freestyle, free-spirited, do-your-own thing dancer. That is until I took my first ballroom dance lesson a year ago and discovered I didn’t know the first thing about dancing. 
At least about partner dancing, properly known as social dancing.

It was a big blow to my ego, a personal humiliation to discover how hard it was for this dancer to coordinate arms with complex foot and leg movements to the correct rhythm and timing of a specific dance while attempting to look good at the same time.

Working for weeks (actually, months) on the same step, turn or spiral, I could not understand how it could be that no matter how hard I practiced, there was so little improvement. I left many a lesson demoralized asking myself, “What am I doing this for? What is the point?.“

A year later of private and group lessons, supervised practices, organized social dances, endless reviewing of steps in my kitchen, on metro platforms and open country roads, I’m hungrier than ever to learn more.  I'm finally a serious student. And, willing to repeat
the same steps over and over. Repetition builds confidence and competence. I welcome corrections.

But what I want most is to
bypass my conscious mind. I want my thinking, analytical brain to relax and my muscle memory to kick-in.  I want to be in sync with any partner so that leading and following feel effortless (and look it too!). This year, I am working on being able to feel more and be less distracted by what step to do next or to predict what my partner is going to do. Or, even to think, "hey, I'm doing pretty good."

As I gear up for the Spotlight, I visualize in my mind’s eye the three routines I'm going to do; the slow waltz, the rumba and the samba. Rehearsing each day is one of my greatest  pleasures. And when showtime comes,  I hope to dance with great feeling and style
-- fully -- for a few minutes. Terrifying minutes. Wish me luck.

Dance away,
Coach Minda






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Michel P
7/6/2015 03:04:55 pm

Wonderful blog about humility, learning and performance. Top athletes and performers talk about the process of such intensive preparation that performance becomes second nature. I wonder, Coach Minda, if you think its simply about the sheer number of hours, or, if there is a way of practicing or even mindfulness that strengthens the ability to perform effortlessly.
Also, beautifully written.

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8/6/2015 11:03:13 am

Hello Michel,
I think there are many considerations as to how one goes about strengthening a new "habit" or skill and I believe practice accounts for a lot of it. So does the relationship between teacher and student. And, the extent to which one's previous background enables you to build on previous experiences. My feeling is that enthusiasm for learning increases engagement which leads to better focus. As an educational technologist, where the focus is on how to create optimal conditions for teaching and learning, I hope to integrate new ideas into future training programs. Where we place the mind as we learn does makes a significant difference to how we can learn. Self-doubt, worry, feeling foolish, "not getting it" etc absolutely gets in the way!! Thanks

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